10 Things You Should Pay Attention To When Dating
Many questions emerge in our heads before going on a date, this is particularely common when we are looking for a life partner, not just dating for the sake of it.
We of course should always be ourselves, but we should also care about the impression we make. Which means there are efforts we should sometimes make. Not just for the other person, we believe making an extra effort before going on a date tends to put us on a rather exciting mood. Without mentioning the fact it will give us more confidence when we are pleased with ourselves.
1. Your Outfit
Your job might be the main reason your outfit is too classic, or that you do not have the time to prepare properly before a date. Getting ready for a date is far from being only about your physical appearance, it is also about the energy you bring into your date.
Taking the time to get ready brings excitement and a positive attitude towards the evening you are about to spend. If you do not have the time, consider taking a 20-30 min for yourself, freshen up and leave the office behind you to prepare yourself psychologically.
2. Avoid crowded venues
A crowed restaurant or bar can be pleasant and the atmosphere festive. When picking the venue, think about it differently. Think about something that reflects your personality, your date’s too if you know them enough and most importantly a venue where you can be close enough to communicate.
3. Take care of yourself
Not having a trimmed beard for men or being too casual for women might attract potential partners. However it might turn off many others. When you are single and seeking a partner, you shouldn’t take such risks, as you might be attracted by the ones who can be turned off by the lack of efforts.
Ladies, make up is your best friend! You can be very natural. However, some concealer, a touch of blush and a lipstick can only make you look better. Manicures and pedicures are not a plus, but rather a must! Going on a date, or even to a professional meeting, a social event without getting your nails done is considered unacceptable and you might come across as neglected.
Gentlemen, many women love the beard look. However, a too messy/long beard can easily give the wrong impression about hygiene. Consider visiting your barber regularly, same if you have neck hair, consider a clean-up with your haircut.
4.Your old pair of trousers
We know that every man has a favourite pair of jeans, usually bought at least 5-10 ago. Bad news for you gentlemen, they need to be thrown out without delay. The reason for that is absolutely not a trend matter, you might actually come across as someone who is still stuck in a specific era of his life, and/or that era was the best. Whereas, the best should always be yet to come
You can of course keep some old pieces that you are attached to or simply like, though, you should pair them with key current pieces , to communicate that you are in the actual era and do take care of yourself and image.
5. Holiday wardrobe
Many people tend to focus on their professional or social wardrobe, which makes their weekend/ holiday outfits way too repetitive and boring.
For example, if you have agreed to meet your date for a quick coffee before your scheduled workout, Pick some cool/sexy or original active-wear! Putting efforts in your appearance shows that you are taking your date seriously and that you care for them!
Consider balancing your wardrobe by putting in more efforts while shopping for casual clothing. Have fun with colours, different trends etc.
6. Don’t be afraid to wear colours
Black is chic sure, but with moderation! you would be surprised to see how floral clothing or brighter colours might suit you. If you prefer dark colours consider a deep burgundy or a gorgeous emerald green. Of course, the little black dress will never be out of style, but exploring other colours can highlight your features and eye colour much better. You can also book yourself a colour consultation and find out which colours work for your skin tone best.
7. The devil is in the details
A not so white shirt that is supposed to be white, no cufflinks, old lingerie, socks, are things we notice when we first start dating.
Let’s face it, grandma’s lingerie or a badly ironed shirt is a huge turn-off. Even when you have been with someone for a while, you should still pay attention to these details.
You might think that it doesn’t really matter, but it does to more people than you can imagine. Remember that you are supposed to be in a seductive phase and all these little details might ruin that for you.
8. Leave the past behind
Give away to charity anything given by your ex-partner, wearing a shirt or a dress that you ex-partner has bought for you or particularly loved on you, keeps you from moving forward and will probably influence you into comparing your date as part of your ex is still with you. You could think ‘’my ex-bought me this shirt, she has great taste. My date has to like my look, if she doesn’t then maybe she doesn’t have such a good taste’’
If your ex-partner picked your entire wardrobe and you decided to keep it, consider a total look over, as this is probably just a symptom of being scared to move forward.
9. Leave your job at the office
You are a lot more than your career, we come across many wonderful people who have amazing careers and tend to forget who they are outside of the job. Learn to talk about yourself, your interests, aspirations etc. without mentioning work or career challenges, talk about your job when asked and do not give too many details, unless your date is genuinely interested, or of course if they work in the same industry.
If you dress differently than your usual office look, you will be able to highlight your personality traits with more ease.
10. Follow up
Do not go silent after a date, do not play games. Always thank your date for their time and share your thoughts about how you felt. Whether you would like to see them again and so on. If you are shy to engage, it’s ok. But learn to make efforts to express how you feel you go on.