No couple thinks about what happens when the seduction phase fades away and the routine settles in. Why would we though? Then, comfort comes in and finds a home in the daily routine.

Life is busy for many, work/social schedules are often packed, so why plan extra things to do as a couple when you already do so much? Why not just rest together? As long as this mindset is temporary, it should not be a major issue, however, if the couple looses fun time and exciting plans together, stops taking care of each other and neglects the relationship, it is usually a bad time. We have selected seven ways that should help avoid getting too comfortable, no matter how long you have been together.

1. Never lose communication

Communication is far more than sharing ten minutes of your day at work, or dealing with every day’s problems, communicating about your kids, etc. Before moving on to your evening routine, successful couples are able to communicate for hours without even talking about their kids or respective jobs. Communication is key to a strong and sustainable relationship. If you believe you have lost it, we highly encourage you to speak to a couple counsellor.

2. Do not neglect yourself

Being neglected in your physical appearance, health, lifestyle is usually a sign that you have given up on yourself and your partner. Not caring enough about attracting and seducing your partner is a red flag you should be taking seriously.

This might sound superficial, but it isn’t. When you go to an interview you want to look your best, same if you attend a social gathering. So, why not putting an effort for your partner? The fact that you are not even considering making an effort to look your best for your other half, shows your lack of interest in your actual relationship.

3. Show your gratitude

Make sure you compliment your partner and show them how grateful you are for what they do for you and your couple. A hectic lifestyle can make it difficult to remember thanking your partner for something you expect them to do .

No matter where your standards stand, what you expect and what you get, you should always be grateful and show it. Some people need to be complimented more than others. However, even people who do not make a fuss about it should equally receive compliments.

4. Do not cancel your plans

Laziness and lack of personal time are not helpful. Work, kids, social life, etc.. the plans that a couple can easily cancel are usually date nights, romantic getaways and so on. Do not let this habit become your routine, stick to your plans and take the time for you and your partner. Not taking it seriously could be a way of neglecting your couple.

5. Respect each other’s privacy

This is a very sensitive point, we believe respecting your partner’s privacy is one of the most important components of a successful union. Privacy ranges widely, of course, each couple has its own boundaries, however, some moments are intimate and should definitely stay that way. Looking in their phone, computers and so on, is also a line you should never cross. If you do so, your couple clearly has trust issues you should not be ignoring, but rather try to understand where they come from and how to gain trust back.

6. Your sex life is very important

You might still be sexually active, however, your sex life should never become an obligation because your partner has more needs. If you lose the sexual desire and become lazy about sex, foreplay, seduction etc we suggest you talk about it together and very openly. If you got to the point where sex is non-existent you should not hesitate and ask for professional help.

7. Don’t be so critical

Even if you are criticising your partner for their own good, you should do it gently, especially if you are talking about something sensitive to them. For exemple, if your partner has put on some weight and is struggling to diet and keep it up, do not try and shake them by harassing them with the matter or imposing to them a lighter diet. Listen to them and understand why they are struggling with it, ask them instead how you can help them. Show them your support the best way you can impact their motivation into improving themselves.