5 Tips On How To Use Body Language Correctly
Body language is a series of silent signals, that play a massive role on the impression you first give to your date. It is a very powerful way to express emotions, whether positive or negative. In this article, we will raise awareness on the silent signals you should avoid at all times not just while dating.
1. Arms, hands and fingers
Never cross your arms, it shows that you are in disagreement with the person, instead express your disagreement openly, or try not to let your body express emotions you are not willing to share. It could also mean that you are offended, or closing yourself off.
Same for hiding your hands, a lot of people put their hands under the table, your hands should be seen at all times, this could be perceived as you being either nervous, uncomfortable or simply shy.
Hold your head high, keep your back straight and pull your shoulders back. Try to measure the right distance between you and your date. For instance, if you are sitting at a bigger table lean forward from time to time to show them that you would like to be closer and are comfortable around them, nod from time to time to express your interest in the conversation.
3. Eye contact
Eye contact is very important; however, you have to be careful not to stare too much. This can make your date feel uncomfortable especially if they are not making as much eye contact with you, on the other hand, make sure you don’t divert your eye contact too much from your date, this is usually a shy behaviour. Trying to hold eye contact a bit longer every time, will help you and perhaps give you more confidence.
How you sit is very important, women should keep their knees together when seating rather than crossing them, the only part that can be crossed is the ankles.
Men should avoid sitting with their legs excessively wide apart. They should also avoid tapping their feet or jiggling too much their leg up and down.
5. Facial expression
Smiling is perhaps the best way to express a positive emotion. The key to it is to avoid the poker face smile. It is actually better not to smile rather than force your smile as people usually can see it or sense it is not genuine.
Be careful of facial expressions that are more difficult to control, such as lifting eyebrows, rolling eyes, lips pursing; all these expressions are usually negative.